Lets see how to begin.....for 4 very, very long years I took total care of my mother in law. She lived with us, it was hard, very hard! I bathed and showered that woman morning and night and more if needed. She was not pleasant and her daughter was worse. She had dementia in the last 3 years of her life. So, you ask what in the hell were you thinking? Well, I did this because my husband asked me and I wanted my children to know family takes care of each other...no matter what. It took a toll on me and that is all I will say.....this rug is my rug of pain...many tears are embedded in the wool. For those that also go down this path.....I feel your pain, truly!